Talking about consent can be one of the most appealing traits that a partner can have. It is important to always check-in with yourself and the people you are engaging with on a sexual level to ensure that everyone is comfortable and enthusiastic about the actions that are taking place. By checking in with our own bodies, we give ourselves the opportunity to call attention to parts of ourselves that we sometimes overlook. This routine, can also give us the chance to revisit the way experiences have affected us. If we feel inclined to, we can decide to share this with the people we are deciding to engage with. As well, by checking in with the other person, we offer the opportunity for them to tell us about their bodies and experiences.
Body language is really hard to interpret. The action of engaging in a discussion about consent allows for verbal clarification. Even if you are a whiz at reading body language, if your partner gives non-verbal signs of consent, stop to verbally ask for their consent and checkin with them periodically to ensure they are still comfortable. In addition, be open to the possibility that they may change
their mind at any time. Just because someone has said yes, doesn’t mean that they don’t have the right to change their mind. By maintaining communication and continuous check-in’s, this opens up the door for a conversation around how the person is feeling and also allows for some adjustments for greater enjoyment and intimacy.
such as body language that shows discomfort or disinterest. For example: silence, lack of eye contact, turning their body away, sleeping or pretending to sleep, pushing away, crossing arms or not responding.